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Forgiveness

Everyone experiences interpersonal hurts, such as acts of omission (e.g., being neglected) and acts of commission (e.g., intentional or unintentional harm). People respond to these transgressions in different ways, such as seeking justice or revenge, “letting go” of the offence, or choosing to forgive the wrongdoer. Research indicates that forgiveness is a helpful way to cope with offences, and it can be supported using forgiveness interventions. This information handout describes what forgiveness is, the steps it might entail, and how it is distinguished from other concepts, such as reconciliation.

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Introduction & Theoretical Background

What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness has been defined in a variety of ways:

A willingness to abandon one’s right to resentment, negative judgment, and indifferent behavior toward one who unjustly injured us, while fostering the undeserved qualities of compassion, generosity, and even love toward him or her.

Enright, 1998

A process that leads to the reduction of unforgiveness (bitterness, anger, etc.) and the promotion of positive regard (love, compassion, or simply, sympathy and pity) for the offender.

Wade & Worthington, 2005

Letting go of negative affect (e.g., hostility), negative cognitions (e.g., thoughts of revenge), and negative behavior (e.g., verbal aggression) in response to considerable injustice, and also may involve responding positively toward the offender (e.g., compassion).

Rye & Pargament, 2002

While some components of forgiveness are contested (such as the need to feel positively toward the offender), these conceptualizations share an emphasis on ceasing resentment

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Therapist Guidance

"When we feel betrayed, offended, or hurt by someone, we try to cope with these experiences. One way of coping is to forgive the other person. It’s not the only option we have, but choosing to forgive can help us move on from past hurts and feel better. Can we explore this information handout and see whether forgiveness feels like a good option for you? If so, let’s think about how you might start the process of doing that."

Cautions and special considerations when exploring forgiveness

Several authors have criticized conceptualizations, practices, and values associated with popular forgiveness interventions, highlighting the need for caution (e.g., Legaree et al., 2007; Worthington & Lamb, 2023). Important considerations for therapists who are considering forgiveness interventions include:

  • Discuss ways of coping with transgressions at the right time. While many clients want to explore forgiveness in therapy (Wade et al., 2005b), premature discussions can

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References And Further Reading

  • Affinito, M. G. (2002). Forgiveness in counseling: Caution, definition, and application. In S. Lamb & J. G. Murphy (Eds.), Before forgiving: Cautionary views of forgiveness in psychotherapy (pp. 88-111). Oxford University Press.
  • Akhtar, S., & Barlow, J. (2018). Forgiveness therapy for the promotion of mental well-being: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Trauma, Violence, and Abuse, 19, 107-122. DOI: 10.1177/1524838016637079.
  • Enright, R. D. (1996). Counseling within the forgiveness triad: On forgiving, receiving forgiveness, and self‐forgiveness. Counseling and Values, 40, 107-126. DOI: 10.1002/j.2161-007X.1996.tb00844.x.
  • Enright, R. D. & Fitzgibbons, R. P. (2000). Helping clients forgive: An empirical guide for resolving anger and restoring hope. American Psychological Association.
  • Gilbert, P. (2020). Compassion: From its evolution to a psychotherapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 11, 586161. DOI: 10.3389/fpsyg.2020.586161
  • Greenberg, L. S. (2015). Emotion-focused therapy: Coaching clients to work through their feelings (2nd ed.). American Psychological Association.
  • Greenberger, D., & Padesky, C. A. (2016). Mind over mood:

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