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Most people consciously and unconsciously train themselves to be to some degree emotionally disturbed.
People’s self-defeating cognitions, emotions, and behaviors are intrinsically and holistically connected.
If they choose to do so, and work hard at modifying their thinking, feeling, and behaving, they can teach themselves to lead more satisfying lives.
Many irrational beliefs with which people disturb themselves can be categorized under three major headings which include absolutistic shoulds, oughts, and musts. These imperatives, from which other beliefs can be derived, are:
‘I absolutely must perform well at important tasks and be approved by significant others—or else I am an inadequate person!’
‘Other people must absolutely treat me kindly, considerately, and fairly—or else they are bad individuals!’
‘Conditions under which I live absolutely must provide me with what I really want—or else my life is horrible, I can’t stand it, and the world’s a rotten place!’
Ellis, A. (2002). Rational emotive behavior therapy. In M. Hersen & W. H. Sledge (Eds.), Encyclopedia of Psychotherapy, Volume 2 (pp. 483–487). Amsterdam, Netherlands: Academic Press.
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