Assertive Communication – ‘I-Messages’ or ‘I-Statements’
An accessible handout introducing the use of 'I-messages' or 'I-statements' to support assertive communication.
Assertive Communication – 'I-Messages' Or 'I-Statements'
This Assertive Communication – 'I-Messages' Or 'I-Statements' resource explains how you can express your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear and respectful way.
Overview
Verbal communication is a key component of assertive behaviour. Many assertiveness training programs encourage the use of 'I-messages' or 'I-statements' to express personal experiences clearly and respectfully. Initially developed by Thomas Gordon for effective parenting (Gordon, 1967, 2000), I-messages focus on conveying one's thoughts, feelings, or needs in an honest and non-blaming manner. The Assertive Communication – 'I-Messages' or 'I-Statements' information handout introduces clients to this technique. It explains what I-messages are, different types of I-message (e.g., statements focusing personal opinions, feelings, or needs), and how they can be beneficial.
Also available as:
PDF ToolUse this tool with your clients
Support therapeutic work between sessions.
Assign
Send the tool securely to your client.
Client completes
Your client works through it on any device, at their own pace.
Review
Review their responses before the next session.
Part of a complete library of evidence-based tools
Worksheets, guides, audio resources and interactive digital tools for mental health professionals.