Demanding Standards – Living Well With Your Personal Rules
Demanding Standards – Living Well With Your Personal Rules is a guide written for clients who have high or perfectionistic standards which cause them distress. It provides clear information about what standards are and how they are maintained, as well as exercises with step-by-step instructions to help clients identify, monitor, and address their perfectionistic standards.
If you asked 100 people whether they set standards for themselves, almost everyone would say that they do. Standards are important, both for people and society, but they can cause problems. If you strive to meet standards that are extremely demanding and difficult to achieve (what might be called ‘perfectionistic standards’), it can lead to serious difficulties, including anxiety, depression, OCD, and eating disorders.
Demanding Standards is a guide written for clients struggling with perfectionistic or demanding standards. It will help them to understand:
- What standards are, and why people set them.
- When and why standards become demanding and perfectionistic.
- Practical things you can do to address your demanding standards.
This is a Psychology Tools guide. Suggested uses include:
- Client handout – use as a psychoeducation and skills-development resource
- Discussion point – use to provoke a discussion and explore client beliefs
- Therapist learning tool – improve your familiarity with a psychological construct
- Teaching resource – use as a learning tool during training
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